Uniting affirmation phases, change models and goal setting
What’s the difference between a SMART goal, an affirmation phase, and principles of change models? When you look into it, these three things are actually very similar. The labels of the systems vary, but the basic approach appears to be very similar. As a result, there might be a unity that exists within affirmation phases, the change model and goal setting.
Join us as we discuss and discover the similarities between these three processes on April 4, from 6:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. at C’ville Coffee. As a matter of fact, at January’s Grounded Living Meetup’s “Discerning and creating SMART goals for 2017” we learned about SMART goals. During February’s “MBTI perceiving-judging dichotomy helps personal balance” meeting and March’s “Enneatype influenced goals” we looked at how personality can affect the goal setting and achieving process through the lens of two different personality systems.
From Winter’s quiet self-reflection into Spring’s new beginnings
This month we will take a look at the intersection of desire, goals and intention. Generally speaking, there are four affirmation phases before manifestation: from desire, to intent, to affirmation, to manifestation. An interesting discovery is how neatly the Change Model process might dovetail with affirmation phases. Completing our cycle of another New Year’s energy and optimism for change, we will begin rooting that change in the New Beginnings energy of Spring.
Cultivating unity with affirmation phases
Incidentally, there are many articles online which might prove useful for this discussion. For example, “Self knowledge is the key to success” includes a nice graphic to visualize the stages of a change model ( The Transtheoretical Model, by Prochaska et al. (1994)). In fact, the graphic image actually demonstrates how dynamic change is.
According to that same article, presumably, at any point, we can relapse into old habits. Also, at any point, we can re-enter the change process. The trick for success is to re-enter at a consciousness-state we can actually hold easily. Ultimately, once we experience a small success, it then becomes easier to continue to desire and strive for a higher, more complete manifestation of our ultimate goal.
Another good article is “Setting Intention instead of affirmations for the new year,” which marks out the differences between an intention and a resolution. In essence, the article suggests that if you set a resolution your mind wants, but doesn’t believe, then you will not have success. The process then becomes backing the resolution up to a level your mind will believe and accept as possible, the consciousness-state you can presently hold.
My affirmation phases don’t seem to hold up over time
Ironically, affirmation phases are also quite dynamic, fluid, and constantly changing. The article “Why affirmations don’t come true” will provide some tips, tricks and common mistakes made when an affirmation phase is not aligned with SMART goal principles. Having compassion, and the ability for a “do-over” will also help one come back from a less-than-successful first attempt.
The “Comparison of affirmation phases and the Change Model” table below may also be useful to review. It’s okay to go back and re-evaluate your affirmation statements and your goals. Perhaps you just weren’t ready to hold the statement yet, or there was one idea or thought-form in it that didn’t quite match your current consciousness-state. Uncovering that small gap, is the beginnings of a huge success!
Additionally, the table below lays out the stages of The Transtheoretical Model, by Prochaska et al. (1994), in the column labeled “Change Model.” This languaging is sourced from the aforementioned article, “Self knowledge is the key to success”. By and large, the affirmation phases labels are sourced from online, print, and workshop sources. What an interesting way to view the merging paradigm of goal setting, affirmation phases and Change Models, right?
Comparison of affirmation phases and the Change Model
|Affirmation Phases||What It Means||Change Model|
|Discomfort/Desire for Change||Not Ready for Change||Pre-Contemplation|
|Intention||Getting ready for Change||Contemplation|
|Affirmation||Ready for Change||Determination|
|Manfestation||In the Process of Change||Action|
|Maintenance (Or Relapse)||Maintenance (Or Relapse)||Maintenance (Or Relapse)|
|Back to Desire for change||Back to Not Ready for Change||Back to Pre-Contemplation|
Our facilitator will be Pamela Perkins Donnelly of Grounded Relating, LLC who studies “the human condition” in the laboratory of life. She is also a Certified Teacher of the Enneagram in the Narrative Tradition as well as a Certified MBTI practitioner. Interested in more events like this? Join the Grounded Living Meetup to RSVP today or check out the Grounded Relating Facebook events page.
Our venue will be C’ville Coffee in Charlottesville, the perfect local hangout for chats, coffee, reading or contemplation. Please support our venue by purchasing an item for consumption; thank you! Read more about C’ville Coffee on Facebook.